Educate Your Parents!

Social commentary or political commentary kept ruling over most of my previous writings. Even back in 2017, I used to share lots of humorous verses on my abrupt thoughts. As we grow up, we become more conscious of political correctness and start filtering out our thoughts. Some totally devote themselves to public gratification and start feeding what they want and present the story in a way they want to hear, which is very similar to our systematic delivery of marketing messages.
But commenting on social issues or writing creatively demands more freedom and it will only stand apart when restrictions and barriers, are removed and the message is critically thought. When I see my previous posts on many issues on “FB Memories”, I don’t dare to admit how gradually my thoughts and perceptions on social issues, philosophical viewpoints changed over time.
Let me tell you something about parenting today. I saw many posts on the toxicity of bad parenting and obviously, there are facts which can’t be ignored. No matter how much we comply with our traditions, it’s true at some point in time, each person seeks his/her individual identity.
Do parents realize that their children aren’t their properties? They are totally different persons with different perceptions of their surroundings. Like, we inject our traditions, religions, and beliefs, values to these children with all social arrangements and institutions before the development of their conscious mind, they naturally adhere to those beliefs and value systems. I am not saying it’s bad rather it is a way of humanizing those infants, which is necessary to some extent but when it becomes a strong enemy to their individual upbringing, it creates more problems. For example, parents might not like poetry but their son might feel a call for poetry. Parents may think painting won’t go with their family values. They will start torturing their children for their own interests. It’s common to torture children both mentally and physically in our country when they lag behind neighbors’ children in any competitive exam.
One day, parents might ask, “ Son, you are such a disgrace! Why your GF is less beautiful than Rahim Saheb’s son’s…”
Imagine, they want their children to be winners at everything. Is this logically possible?
Parents seek social validation of their children's actions. In many countries, it might lead to honor killing and in all cases, secret suicides of souls.
Pretty sure, they also feel insecure about their inabilities and that’s why they want their children to fulfill their dreams. However, children are their part biologically but totally different in mentally. They possess different perceptions and views and they are part of a different time. The longer the generation gap, the lesser the conflicts.
Parents and children share different timelines but the time gap is not that long. Owing to that, parents might become more possessive and the conflicts become acute and ego-clash gets strengthened.
What if they took birds as the perfect example of parents — Parent birds feed their children and protect them until they learn flying. Whenever they see baby birds are capable of flying, parents bird ask them while leaving, “Will your wings float in the air? Go! The world is yours! Fly till death, at your own world”.
These are my observations and I got enough freedom. I am privileged to have great parents. But most of us aren’t that fortunate. At our old collective tradition, the problem wasn’t that strong. In our form of patriarchy, we had a different type of individualism. But sudden disruptions created by city-centric mentality and detachment from social life maybe some other reasons adding parents' frustration.
I have a request for the children- don’t hate your parents even if their traditional mindsets cause a hell lot of trouble for you. It was their failure as parents to treat you nicely and smartly, but it will be more detrimental to you if you start not admitting thousands of other sacrifices they made for you. I am not being old school by telling you to sacrifice yourself for traditions, I must say revolt when necessary.
Every change-maker denies their forefathers’ belief system, but don’t disrespect them. Always be open to them. Prove yourself right but forgive what they did.
Especially, female children have different stories of parental torture on social pressure and at a severe time, please, seek help from law enforcement agencies. Don’t just fit in.
But always make sure as a child, you are not denying your own responsibilities.
Parents are the reasons we are here on earth, in the end, they will be there for you even when the world goes against you.
If you can convince them, they ought to be changed.
Don’t pass your insecurities on your children.

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